Saturday, January 9, 2010
Dear Mike: How do you handle rejection?
Mike: I handle it like most, if not all writers: Not very well.
I curl up on my couch and wolf down a pint of Häagen-Dazs butter pecan ice cream.
And I endlessly go over and over in my head: What did I do wrong? How could I have done the story better? Do I really suck? Should I try another profession
But you should remember that sometimes the rejection has absolutely nothing to do with you the writer.
It’s merely the individual taste of the editor. And, believe me when I tell you this, some editors have NO TASTE. Or talent. Or writing ability. I can count on one hand the great editors I've had over my career.
So do yourself a big favor and try hard not to take rejection personally. Don’t dwell on it.
No matter how crushing it is, move beyond it. Don’t let it paralyze you. Get right back on that horse and begin riding again, even with the same project but maybe with another publication. Or star anew on another project.
Assume the law-of-averages attitude of sales people: They doesn’t get down after a rejection. They simply know they're that much closer to a sale.
Good luck! And keep the faith!
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